Pausing vs. Quitting

I have a hard time with self-guilt when it comes to writing. I feel like I am never satisfied with my productivity levels when I write, like I can always be doing better. But despite this attitude, I’ve found it takes away from my productivity more than it helps it. You see, it’s taken me awhile to figure this out, but holding myself to such a high “writing” standard that I am inevitably am not going to meet hinders me much more than it helps me. Procrastination feels much more attractive when I am disappointed in myself.

I think this is why I have a tendency to take looooong gaps in between my writing weeks. Ones that I didn’t plan. And all that time I’m mentally yelling at myself, “get back to writing your book! Stop being a quitter!” and yet this attitude does very little to get me back into my writing habit. I just feel guilty.

So recently I wanted to reframe my thinking. To stop demonizing “breaks” because breaks are not synonymous with quitting. Quite the opposite actually. Everyone needs a break every now and then, even from stuff they really enjoy. So I decided to start referring to my non-writing periods as “pauses” not “quitting”. Already I can tell a difference in the way I view writing. It feels less like a chore. And I won’t leave it to sit for weeks on end either. Because a “pause” I implies that it will be continued, whether it be tomorrow or next week. Pauses are healthy every now and then, I shouldn’t yell at myself for taking them otherwise I will associate writing with dissatisfaction and this immense feeling of “I don’t want to do this”.

So if you’re a writer like me who has bad habit of yelling at yourself every time you step away from a project, maybe consider taking a well-needed “pause”. And then come back to it.

Evening Poems: Bridges

You say I burn bridges 

Reckless and without care 

But I implore you to listen 

Such a judgement is not fair 

I did not light the match 

I did not start the fire 

It was them I say  

Who piled up the pyre 

But one day I was done. 

One day I began to tire. 

Of bailing water on the blaze 

That persisted in growing higher.  

So I stood still.  

And let it burn down. 

Perhaps it would have lasted 

If it were more structurally sound.  

World Building Questions to Ask

Here are a few World Building Questions I tend to ask myself when building a world, specifically a fantasy one. These questions can help you flesh out and get a good feel for the world you plan on placing your characters in. Enjoy!

Magic System:

What can the magic do?

What can the magic not do?

Is there a price or drawback for overusing and reaching the magic’s limitations?

Does the Magic require the use of external tools? (ex. wand, book knowledge, incantation of sorts, etc.)

Are there people who cannot perform magic?

Technology:

What are the various means of transportation?

Is there a time period in which you can compare the development of tech to?

Who regulates the use of the world’s tech?

Any specific laws or regulations concerning it?

What are some common everyday uses of this world’s tech?

Laws and Leadership:

Is there a high ranking official above everyone or a council?

How is this government structured, generally?

Who makes the War decisons?

Who lays the law of the land?

How are leaders appointed?

Any limitations of said leaders?

Are laws permanent?

Describe the military power.

Society:

Are there various social classes? If so, describe them.

What are the specific traits assigned to each social class? Signs of status?

What does common “everyday” clothes look like?

Geography and Climate:

Describe the seasons.

Describe the weather.

How important are weather patterns to this society? How are they affected by it?

Give a general description of the notable geographic features of this world.

Are there any tundras, deserts, mountains, lakes, or coastlines?

How are cities in these various climates different from each other?

Other:

What happens to the world/city’s sewage and waste?

Where do textiles and various materials come from?

Are there imports? If so, from where?

Evening Poems: Art Therapy

Once upon a time
I laid in a bed of disgrace
Running from my demons
That kept perfect pace
No matter how much I ran,
They always won the race.
I sought a way to beat them,
So I gave then a face.
Armed with a brush
Their features I did trace.
Till I trapped them in a portrait.
I put them in their place.
On my wall they hang.
Frozen in time and space.
A monument in acrylic,
To the demons I face.

Evening Poems: Regret

Regret it a skeleton.  

His bones are made of lead.  

He wont stop talking.  

He sits on my bed.  

Out from his sockets 

Blood does drip 

As he pours me poison 

that I continually  sip. 

His skull is cracked  

And from it you can see 

A heart sits  

where his brain should be.  

The 7 deadly writing sins that ruin your productivity

Good morning! Long time, no blog post? With that in mind, I think it’s either befitting or ironic that I am sharing a little list of comprised of some of the most common “Writing Sins” that totally mess with my writing productivity. Little things that mess with my best of intentions to write buuuut I could just refresh my pinterest feed one more time, right?

Having your phone nearby and not silenced.  

Is it no surprise that I’m a super distracted writer? Generally I don’t see myself as an easily distracted person but there is something about sitting down that makes my wonder from whatever I am supposed to be doing and search for something else. And, often, that something else, is my phone. Phones basically give you instant engagement and gratification. I’m sure we’ve all heard the studies done on this. The tiny dopamine rush we get from the stimulation of entertainment (this rush being small but effective in wiring our brains to seek it out more or “refresh” the page). But, because of this, having my phone nearby, can often be a distraction waiting to happen. Especially if I don’t silence it. These days, for many reasons, I have my notification completely off nearly 100% of the time, and I will say, it really, really helps.

Having too many tabs up. 

I’ll often find myself wanting to clarify this one “thing” in my writing so I open up a new tab, to research said “thing” and one rabbit hole of research later, here I am with 1000 tabs up and no writing actually done. So, for my benefit, I limit the amount of “tabs” I’m allowed to have open. In fact, it has to be really important for me to minus my word document and look up because I know my own tendencies. This is why I recommend that if you ever need to further research something for clarification in your writing,  insert a filler word and move on. The filler word should be weird like “pink elephant” for its easily searchable in a word document and found. Come back to it later.

Getting a little to caught up in music

I feel there’s a common theme of distraction here. I cannot write with music really. I end up humming along and just getting way to into it and Oh! Look! Now I’m distracted. Again. If I do happen to be in a focused mood, instrumentals often work best. Chill instrumentals. And even then, it’s probably best I don’t recognize it so I’m not tempted to hum or sing along.

Being too perfectionistic and getting too bogged down in getting everything just right.  

Hmmm… distractible AND perfectionistic? What a great combo! This is more of a mind thing. If I’m ever to get any writing done, I have to tell myself over and over again “you can’t edit a blank page, just keep writing”.

Not having a snack nearby.  

I’m just repeating myself at this point. This is yet another gateway to distraction. Take my word, have food nearby, unless you have a specifically planned break for food.

Not knowing your productivity pitfalls or strengths.  

Hence this list. But it can be different for everyone. It’s simply a matter of knowing yourself and your own unproductive tendencies and having specific ways to counter them. Not only that, but try and play to your strengths as well. If music really helps you picture the ambiance of a story, by all means, utilize that. If it is nothing more than a source of distraction (like it is for me), then maybe resort to some other background noise like ambiance sounds.

Getting too caught up in word counting.  

If I am struggling to pump out some writing, I find I have a huge problem with typing, and then checking the word count like I’m writing an essay for school. This is because I have a word goal I hope to meet every day, and while this does me good, on bad days, I find myself way too caught up in meeting the quota. I haven’t really found a way to combat this if I’m honest. I feel that if I don’t force myself to write at least a little everyday, it is easy to get out of the habit and oh! Now I haven’t written for a month. Yay. But I definitely feel like my writing suffers when I am just checking a “list”. My only tip on this specific tendency is just know, that we all have bad writing days. But I think I ascribe to the idea that something, even if its a bit forced on this particular day, is better than nothing. Really I think that’s the ideology that’s at the heart of productive writing.

“Something is always better than nothing”.

Miscellaneous Dialogue Prompts

“Thanks for underestimating me; I needed the motivation.”

“Tell me, if our hearts were replaced with clocks, would love more?”

“Someone here has to be hollow; might as well be you.”

“I dont remember your face but I remember I love you.”

“Follow close- there’s no telling what’ll be waiting for us.”

“If you were made to mend broken hearts, you would have been born with a needle and thread.”

“Knowledge and understanding are two totally seperate things I’m afraid.”

“I deserve to be loved, not merely considered.”

“You fell so many by the sword yet you cannot save yourself.”

“Please don’t look away.”

“The problem with people who take down giants, Is they end up thinking they’re giants themselves.”